I am fascinated by the unwritten rules that shape how we live, think, and show up in the world and for each other. On the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast, Karen Goldfinger Baker and I hashed out how much more time, energy, effort, and attention it requires to conform to these unwritten, and often restrictive rules rather than going after the changes we want in our lives. There is this cultural stain around the word “easy,” we feel like if something isn’t hard then it must be false. My life’s work is to help people dig deep into unwritten rules and rewrite them with attention and intention so that we can live into our own magnificence.
“We act in the fear that not belonging means death, so we conform ourselves—that’s the unwritten rule of all unwritten rules and the lie of all lies.” – David Taylor-Klaus