Mindset Mondays with DTK – Ep #132 — Kindness is an inside job.

@Mindset Mondays with DTK – Ep #132 — Kindness is an inside job.On a coaching call this week, a senior executive was beating himself up for being upset about what was "going wrong" in his world. To be fair, in addition to the personal and community impact of the global pandemic and the political upheaval, there are tectonic shifts in the organization he helps lead. And it's perfectly reasonable to have incredibly strong feelings about it, if not expected. Beating oneself up for FEELING is the kind of self-abuse that can be the most emotionally and spiritually crushing. And this leader was worried about the ripple effect on those around him … at work and at home."Be kinder to yourself. And then let your kindness flood the world." — Pema ChodronFor this man, the first step was to acknowledge that his inner 5-year-old needed to stomp his feet, be sad, and get flat-out pissed off that the world wasn't turning out the way he had planned. He had to be kind to that little boy and to hear him out. With that part of him held and heard, then this amazing man could turn his full attention to what is important… Sure, tectonic shifts can be unsettling, but those massive shifts reveal new ground upon which creation is possible. And it was time for him to create. The people he served were counting on him.He left our call reconnected to his confidence and refocused on serving the people he leads. The men and women he leads will experience the powerful leader he has become and the kind-hearted human he has always been.What will change in your world when you're kinder to yourself?

Posted by David Taylor-Klaus on Monday, August 31, 2020

Episode #132 — Kindness is an inside job.

On a coaching call this week, a senior executive was beating himself up for being upset about what was “going wrong” in his world. To be fair, in addition to the personal and community impact of the global pandemic and the political upheaval, there are tectonic shifts in the organization he helps lead. And it’s perfectly reasonable to have incredibly strong feelings about it, if not expected. Beating oneself up for FEELING is the kind of self-abuse that can be the most emotionally and spiritually crushing. And this leader was worried about the ripple effect on those around him … at work and at home.

“Be kinder to yourself. And then let your kindness flood the world.”
— Pema Chodron

For this man, the first step was to acknowledge that his inner 5-year-old needed to stomp his feet, be sad, and get flat-out pissed off that the world wasn’t turning out the way he had planned. He had to be kind to that little boy and to hear him out. With that part of him held and heard, then this amazing man could turn his full attention to what is important… Sure, tectonic shifts can be unsettling, but those massive shifts reveal new ground upon which creation is possible. And it was time for him to create. The people he served were counting on him.

He left our call reconnected to his confidence and refocused on serving the people he leads. The men and women he leads will experience the powerful leader he has become and the kind-hearted human he has always been.

What will change in your world when you’re kinder to yourself?

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